Working with hospice, we are with patients as they experience many lasts - a last birthday, Christmas, or wedding anniversary, etc. We also support the families as they experience many firsts without their loved one - a first Christmas after the patient's death, the patient's birthday, the anniversary of the patient's date of death, etc. Any therapist will tell you that finding a way to recognize these difficult "firsts" can be an important part of the grieving process. Remember that music can evoke strong memories and can play a role in the grieving process.
Be kind to yourself when remembering events that may not have the best emotional associations. Find ways to recognize the event in ways that build you up, not tear you down. It takes time - sometimes years - but it can happen.
Please contact us if you'd like some assistance with your own process.